'Ask Debbie Sue' Dating advice with author & comedian Debbie Sue Goodman

My heartfelt thoughts and prayers go out to all the victims, their families, and to the entire community of Newtown. My thoughts and prayers are with you all during this horrible, heartbreaking tragedy.

Many of my readers asked a similiar question the past few weeks. If I ever went on a dinner date with someone that didn’t pay attention to me, but was more interested in the waitress or reading e-mails. Several years ago I went out with a guy that was text messaging one of his ex-girlfriend's while we were on a date. One female reader wrote she went to dinner with one of her girlfriend's who kept calling her boyfriend while they were having dinner. She ended up leaving the restaurant, and her girlfriend, still talking on the phone, didn't notice she left! I had an interesting date many years ago, with a guy that seemed more interested in ‘himself’ then answering his cell phone or texting. I wrote about the date in my first book, ‘Still Single.’ The story was titled:

‘From Bad to Worse’

I met this guy several years ago through a singles dating site. He described himself as ‘very handsome’ and told me on the phone that all the ladies were attracted to him! I had to meet him to see for myself. 

We met at a restaurant for lunch. He was handsome, tall, slender, had long curly dark hair and athletic. But, he had one problem. He kept looking in the mirror more then I looked in the mirror no matter where we went. When we were in the car, he kept looking in the rear view mirror at himself. He kept asking me for my mirror! During lunch, at various restaurants, he picked up the knives, forks and spoons just to look at himself in every kind of reflection there was. Everywhere we went, he kept asking, ‘Do you think the waitress is looking at me?’ ‘Do you think the waiter is looking at me?’ ‘Do you think anyone is looking at me?’ I didn’t answer him. On another date after lunch he said, ‘Look at this, they’re all looking at me!’

I replied, ‘I know one person who isn’t going to look at you anymore,’ and I left..

Dear Debbie Sue: 'I've been dating a guy for a few weeks who doesn't pay attention to me while we're on a date. He stares at waitresses, customers at other tables and texts his friends on his cell phone. On our last date, his male best friend called while we were having drinks and appetizers at a bar. He talked to him and never acknowledged he was on a date! The last guy I dated did a similiar thing to me, and I broke up with him. I don't know what to do about this guy.' Confused 

Dear Confused: You need to tell this guy how you feel. You broke up with the last guy that treated you the same way. You did the right thing. Look for a man that gives you his ‘full attention’ when you’re on a date. Staring at the waitresses, and texting his friends is just plain rude. If he continues to not give you his undivided attention on your next date, Pick up your cell phone and call his cell phone. When he answers, say ‘Goodbye…’

Happy Holidays and Happy New Year everyone!

Until next time..

Debbie Sue

www.stillsingle.org.

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